YO PUEDO VIVIR MI VIDA Y MI MUERTE

ESCRITO por Abel Lopez Rodriquez TU ERES LA VIDA... Primero, tu vida es tu vida, no es la vida de nadie más. No permitas que nadie te domine, no dejes que otros te dicten lo que has de hacer. Eso es una traición a la vida. Si dejas que otros te digan lo que has de hacer, sean tus padres, la sociedad, tu sistema educativo, tus políticos, tus sacerdotes, sean los que sean, si te dejas dominar por los demás, te perderás tu vida. Porque el dominar proviene del exterior y la vida está en tu interior. Nunca se encuentran. No te estoy diciendo que tengas que ser alguien que siempre diga no a todo. Eso tampoco sirve. Hay dos clases de gente. Una pertenece al tipo obediente, dispuesto a entregarse a cualquiera. No poseen en su interior un alma independiente. Son inmaduros, infantiles, siempre buscando la figura del padre, buscando a alguien que les diga lo que han o lo que no han de hacer. No son capaces de confiar en sí mismos. Esa gente forma la mayor parte de la población mundial, las masas. Luego, en oposición a esa gente, existe una pequeña minoría que rechaza la sociedad, que rechaza los valores de, la sociedad. Ellos creen que son rebeldes. No lo son; son sólo reaccionarios. Tanto si escuchas a la sociedad como si rechazas la sociedad, si la sociedad permanece siendo el factor determinante, entonces eres dominado por la sociedad. LA MUERTE, TU MUERTE Todo regresa a su fuente original, ha de volver a su fuente original. Si comprendes la vida, también comprenderás la muerte. La vida es un olvidarse de la fuente original y la muerte es recordarla de nuevo. La vida es alejarse de la fuente original; la muerte es regresar a casa. La muerte no es algo repugnante, la muerte es hermosa; Pero la muerte es bella solamente para aquellos que han vivido la vida sin inhibiciones, plenamente, sin represión. La muerte es hermosa solamente para aquellos que han vivido su vida de forma bella, que no se han sentido asustados de vivir; que han tenido el coraje suficiente para vivir, que han amado, que han bailado, que han gozado. La muerte se convierte en la celebración suprema si tu vida ha sido una celebración. Déjame que te lo diga de este modo: lo que tu vida ha sido, la muerte lo desvelará. Si has sido un desdichado en la vida, la muerte revelará esa desdicha. La muerte es el gran revelador. Si has sido feliz en tu vida, la muerte revelará esa felicidad. Si solamente has vivido una vida de comodidades físicas y de placeres físicos, entonces por supuesto, la muerte será algo muy desagradable e incómodo porque has de abandonar el cuerpo. El cuerpo solamente es una morada temporal, un refugio en el que pasamos la noche y que dejamos por la mañana. No es tu morada permanente. No es tu casa. VIVE LA VIDA, VIVE LA MUERTE La vida es vivir. No es una cosa es un proceso: No hay otra forma de conocer lo que es la vida más que viviendo, estando vivo, fluyendo, discurriendo con ella. Si buscas, el significado de la vida en algún dogma, en una determinada filosofía, en una teología, da por seguro que te perderás lo que es la vida y su significado. ­ La vida no te está esperando en ninguna parte; te está sucediendo. No se encuentra en el futuro como una meta que has de alcanzar, está aquí y ahora, en este mismo momento, en tu respirar, en la circulación de tu sangre, en el latir de tu corazón. Cualquier cosa que seas, es tu vida y si te pones a buscar significados en otra parte, te la perderás. El hombre ha estado haciendo esto durante siglos. Los conceptos se han vuelto muy importantes, las explicaciones se han vuelto muy importantes y lo real ha sido olvidado por completo. No vemos lo que de hecho ya está aquí, queremos racionalizaciones y nos perdemos el vivir de cada dìa.

Too Much Praise Can Turn Kids Into Narcissists, Study Suggests

Helicopter parenting, along with other forms of over-parenting, have come under considerable criticism in recent years for creating a generation of kids who can’t problem-solve for themselves. Now, a related parenting behavior – “overvaluing” one’s kids – has come under similar fire: But here, for creating narcissists-in-the-making. A new study from The Ohio State University suggests that constant – and perhaps undue – praise for our kids’ tiniest accomplishments, or non-accomplishments, may have the unintended side-effect of creating an over-inflated ego. And this can have serious consequences both in childhood and later on in life. “Research shows that narcissism is higher in Western than non-Western countries, and suggests that narcissism levels have been steadily increasing among Western youth over the past few decades,” the authors write in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. The team examined the roots of narcissism, by pitting two competing theories of narcissism against each other. The social learning theory suggests that kids become narcissists when their parents overvalue them – that is, when parents treat their kids as fundamentally more deserving than others, or as Freud put it, when they “are under a compulsion to ascribe every perfection to the child—which sober observation would find no occasion to do.” In contrast, a psychoanalytic theory suggests that kids become narcissists when their parents withhold warmth – so the kids have to put themselves on a pedestal and seek approval elsewhere. To test which of these theories is more on-point, the team had kids in the Netherlands, ages 7-11, and their parents fill out questionnaires every six months for a year and a half. Some of the questions probed narcissism in the children: For example, the kids had to rate how much they agreed with statements like, “Kids like me deserve something extra.” Some statements probed self-esteem: “Kids like me are happy with themselves as a person.” Parents also had to rate statements about the “value” of their kids: “My child is a great example for other children to follow,” for instance. Finally, both parents and kids answered questions about how much warmth parents showed their kids: “I let my child know I love him/her” (or, for kids, “My father/mother lets me know he/she loves me”). Which kids were more likely to be narcissistic as time went by? Parental overvaluation was the largest predictor of a child’s narcissism over time, but interestingly, it did not predict self-esteem. In other words, telling kids how exceptional they are doesn’t produce kids with good healthy self-esteem – it just makes them more narcissistic. “People with high self-esteem think they’re as good as others, whereas narcissists think they’re better than others,” said co-author of the study Brad Bushman. “Children believe it when their parents tell them that they are more special than others. That may not be good for them or for society.” Beyond being annoying to friends and colleagues, narcissism is a trait that comes with a number of psychological and social problems, both in childhood and in adulthood, some of which can be serious. “Narcissistic children feel superior to others, believe they are entitled to privileges, and crave for constant admiration from others,” study author Eddie Brummelman tells me. “When they fail to obtain the admiration they want, they may lash out aggressively. Narcissistic individuals are also at increased risk to develop addiction. Subgroups of narcissists, especially those with low self-esteem, are at increased risk to develop anxiety and depression.” Of course, narcissism is partly based on genetics, so some of its development may be beyond our control. “Research suggests that, indeed, the role of genes and the environment are evenly split,” says Brummelman. And that’s both bad and good news. If your child is genetically predisposed to narcissism, it’s all the more important not to falsely inflate his or her sense of worth, but instead to be more down-to-earth about congratulations, and more reserved about praise. Bushman, who has three kids himself, says that his research in narcissism “has changed my parenting style…. When I first started doing this research in the 1990s, I used to think my children should be treated like they were extra-special. I’m careful not to do that now.”

YES, WE CAN

Four years ago, Professor Abel Lopez, was blessed to speak to the students of CCC ACE Third Year and suggested that they take up one saying... YO PUEDO! I CAN! AT THAT SAME TIME, BARAK OBAMA WAS RUNNING FOR PRESIDENT OF THE USA AND HIS SPEECH WAS THEMED... YES I CAN! IT WAS THE BEGINNING OF A NEW HISTORY IN THE WORLD. NOW, AS THE 44TH PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES IS AT THE CAPITOL FOR HIS INAUGURATION INTO OFFICE FOR A SECOND TERM WE CAN´T STOP TO THINK THAT THIS IS JUST THE RIGHT DAY FOR THIS TO HAPPEN. ITS MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. DAY AND THE DREAM HAS BECOME AN AMERICAN STORY! GOD BLESS AMERICA. GOD BLESS THE PRESIDENT, BARAK OBAMA AND GOD BLESS OUR FIRST LADY AND THE TWO FIRST DAUGHTERS. HISTORY CONTINUES!

TO ABEL. WITH LOVE

Two years later we still have not heard from Mexican authorities anything new in respect to the death of Abel Martin Lopez Rodriguez who was murdered in his home, the victim of one of the most brutal stabbing incident in Chetumal, Q. Roo. Their belief was that he died around 5am to 6am on the morning of October 18 but in my heart I want to believe he died around 11pm on the night of October 17 because he never showed up where I was and I waited until 2am for him to come. I did not think anything had gone wrong at the time and took it for granted he was on a night out with the boys as he was scheduled to sing that night at a night club in the area. Today, I live with my "what if's" and my "maybes". One thing is certain. Abel came into my life for a purpose and remains a major part of it even though we are no longer physically together. He remains in my heart where he will always be. Time will tell if we will ever know what happened that awful night. I have now for Divine Justice as I have lost faith in seeing justice done here on earth.

Rest in Peace, papi. Until we meet again. I love you more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
YO PUEDO!

“La reflexión es sabiduría pero también es tiempo que pocos quieren dedicar” (Abel Desestress)

"WE LEARN FROM REFLEXIONS BUT VERY FEW LIKE TO DEDICATE TIME TO DOING SO" (ABEL DESESTRESS)

Of what worth is life if we do not learn from our mistakes? Of what use is living if we do not make mistakes?

If we look at our lives and where we have been and where we are, we can easily see that many of us have changed... some for better while others for worst. Life is a continuous walk. It carries us down paths of love, happiness, hunger, thirst, sadness and even hatred. It can develop into success or into failure. We can choose our path through life. We can make it better or worst. We can be all that we want to or all that we don´t want to depending on how we guide our actions and thoughts.

Today let us look back and see where we have gone wrong. let us see what we should do in a different way. Life is short. TODAY IS THE TIME TO TAKE A STAND. IT IS TIME TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE... LOOK BACK AND SEE WHAT NEEDS FIXING. LOOK BACK INTO YOUR PAST AND SEE WHAT CAN BE BETTER.

YOU CAN DO IT. JUST SAY TWO WORDS---- I CAN! YO PUEDO!

ALL THIS I WRITE IN MEMORY AND WITH GREAT LOVE FOR THE ONE PERSON WHO MADE A DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE. ABEL, SOMOS LA LUNA Y EL SOL. YO BRILLO PORQUE TU BRILLASTES.TE AMO, CIELO, MAS QUE AYER Y MENOS QUE MAÑANA.

WELCOME, MAIJA AURORA

July 11th., 2011 was one of the greatest days in the past two years of my life. It became a day filled with happiness and a tinge of sadness at the same time. I was thosands of miles away and getting ready to cross the border to go back to a very tiring task when I turned on the computer and entered my facebook to discover a message from a friend of my daughter. She informed me that my second granddaughter was on the way. My baby was in the hospital having her second baby. I just knew it! I had always said Maija Aurora would arrive before I was back home with my daighter and so it was happening. I was very excited as I crossed the border that afternoon and as I smiled deep in thought I felt a little sad because I was not there to witness the joyful moment first hand.

I am here with her now, however, enjoying every moment with MY FAMILY.

WELCOME MAIJA AURORA. WELCOME TO THIS WORLD. YOU ARE BLESSED AND TRULY A PRINCESS.

I PLEDGE TO LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU AS LONG AS I CAN.

TO MY DAUGHTER CAROLYN I EXTEND ALL MY LOVE. I CONTINUE TO BE PROUD OF YOU.

TO MY SON IN LAW, MIYA, I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AS YOU WITNESS THE BIRTH, THE GROWTH AND THE LOVE ONLY A FATHER CAN FEEL. YOU ARE BLESSED AND I AM PROUD OF YOU. YOU CONTINUE TO SHOW ME THAT YOU TRULY ARE COMMITTED TO YOUR FAMILY.

ALL MY LOVE,
Grandma Brenda Aurora

GOD BLESS YOU ALL

HAPPY BARON BLISS DAY TO ALL BELIZEANS

Today across the length and breath of this beautiful jewel many call home, is celebrated Baron Bliss Day. This great man came into our Belizean waters and viewed our wonderful jewel. Even though he never set foot on Belizean soil he loved what he saw from his ship and left to the people of Belize a trust fund that can never be used in its entirety. Only the interest can be used to construct community facilities such as markets, libraries, community centers and parks.

On such build is the Corozal Town Hall in Corozal Town. It was builds years ago and is still standing.

(Thank God, Baron Bliss stipulated that only the interest could be used because if he had not there would be no money in that account today. I bet our political leaders have squirmed and wept everytime they think of that money they can't get their hands on. Hahahahaha)